Maybe better described as "I don't do but stuff" See what i did there? One 't'? A little pun? Anyway, what I mean is that everyone around me told me this was the super true way. So, let's do it! Then I got all those "buts" All those qualifiers. It's either true or it isn't. I believed what my family told me and the people I lived around, because my value system says to look to them for wisdom, respect your elders, not to question everything they say. Sometimes they're just wrong though. I've tried to deal with it respectfully. At least with them.
That happens in my work a lot too. There are a lot of nudge-nudge, win-wink understandings, and it ruffles a lot of feathers that I don't play that way. It says be ethical, so I'm ethical. There's no buts in there, and people look at me like a damned fool saying, yeah, but you know how it is. Everyone does it. All these unwritten 'way of things' understandings. It's either the way or it isn't. Not a fan of bullshit or squirrely ideals.