Heard this on the radio from an Atheist- and I think I understand the disconnect better now. If you believe in God, and Heaven, then you have to suffer to get there, right? Your life must be miserable, right? Otherwise you cannot achieve the Kingdom of Heaven, right? You must suffer on Earth. This is the belief of Atheism- you cannot enjoy life on Earth and achieve the Kingdom of Heaven too.
Hedonism is OK- Hey, I used to look at my own picture while masturbating- but the real rush for me now is doing something cool, something that makes a difference. BBQ'ing hot dogs at the Humane Society. Walking shelter dogs. Cleaning up trash at abandoned homeless encampments. It's not an organized religious activity but it's something God, if there is one, will take note of.
I think you can be a good, re: religious person, and do good things, and not have to suffer on Earth to achieve Heaven. At any rate I'm not going to worry about it- I'll just keep on being me with my own code of ethics and do something nice for others occasionally, just because it makes me feel good. It's all about being kind and compassionate, and if that's considered suffering then- I guess I'll burn in Hell.
If there is such a place.