We didn't adopt him. He just moved in. The dad was a womanizer the mom a poor sick woman. Dad came home mom shot him then herself. Kid was with his grandmother where he was mostly anyway. He was a classmate with my son because she lived across the lake from us and they used that address to get him at better school. That same year we began homeschooling utilizing the Abecka system. The two boys would canoe from our house to his gmaws and back. Gmaw died in 2011. They were twenty or twenty one. They are meals at one place or the other depending who made steak or burgers. They both attended the same dojo on our dime.
It was no burden. They've grown apart but he still visits and calls.
He's a good man and a great dad.