Someone is telling a side of the story. If she's a master manipulator, she seems to be pretty shitty at it since someone claims she's being ineffective. I know what manipulation is. I know what sitting at home on your birthday while your wife is out until the early AM means. This is not complicated. This is not about someone being a master manipulator, it is about someone manipulating putty.
All this sappy advice is for shit as the person telling the tale is obviously looking for sympathy at any cost. I'd venture that's how someone gets into this situation in the first place.